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Free Basement Tape Download! All in the Family

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Audio: All in the Family (Basement Tapes #42)

This weekend only we are offering Basement Tape #42 as a free download! This conversation is on age-segregation in the culture and the church. We talk about how, like the world around us, we see our families not as a single unit, but as a temporary arrangement of individuals. The family is never more temporarily together than when they come to church. Our programs have programmed out of our minds the very notion of the family as we all go different directions for our Bible studies, Sunday school classes, clubs, and activities. When did this become normal, and what is. . .
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I Did Not Come to Bring Peace but a Sword

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I did not come to bring peace but a sword.—Jesus

Jesus Talked About Family Conflict We are a people at war. This war is not always fought out in the marketplace, in the broader culture, or in the church. It is often fought in the confines of the family. Jesus, in one of the most uncomfortable of all His uncomfortable sayings, tells the disciples this in Matthew 10:34-39: Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her. . .
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Children are a Blessing

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Believing that Children are a Blessing Gabriel just fell asleep sitting on my lap. As I was laying him down, I realized just how dependent he is and how much I love him and care for him. Eleven years and six children ago, we sat in the office of our pastor, along with the staff counselor and the chairman of the deacon board. The reason for the meeting was that Kara and I had just announced our third pregnancy in three years and the church was very concerned about sending us to the mission field with this “problem” brewing. From. . .
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Flirting with Sexual Sin

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Flirting with Sexual Sin

Sexual Sin Starts in the Imagination Tonight, my Beloved showed me a video she found online called the Evolution of Beauty (see video below). It begins with a plain-looking young lady with no makeup sitting down at a mirror. Then time speeds up as make-up artists and hair-stylists work their “magic” for what seems like hours: painting her face, highlighting her eyes, concealing her freckles, hiding blemishes, teasing her hair and making her “picture perfect.” Well, not quite… After several hands transform the young lady into a super-model look, the camera flashes and the photo is shown on a computer. . .
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Family History

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Recording Family History

Learning Your Family History As a young boy, one of my favorite things to do was to venture into my parent’s bedroom while my father was working at his huge desk. When he looked up from his law books I would ask him if he would tell me a story from when he was a boy. He always would and we’d lie on his huge bed (it turns out it was only a double bed but it was the biggest bed in my world) and he’d tell me about life on the farm in southern Indiana with his seven brothers. . .
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Building the Kingdom of God is a Family Mission

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Build the Kingdom of God in Your Family During times of war a wise commander deploys his soldiers according to a strategic plan. Missions are carefully planned and then manned with well-equipped warriors so that objectives are achieved, positions are held, and enemy territory is taken. And so it is with the Lord of Hosts, the One who commands the armies of Heaven. Our God has an eternal plan for dominion, one that is moving forward one heart, one household, one community at a time. The reality of the Kingdom of God and our part in it is something that. . .
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Honoring Your Parents When You’re All Grown Up

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Honoring Your Parents When You're All Grown Up

Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee. Exodus 20:12 Family Battles One of the most familiar verses on spiritual warfare is Ephesians 6:12, where we learn that we do not wrestle against flesh and blood. And yet, while we read that verse and meditate upon its meaning, some of us are confronted with the reality that it seems we do indeed wrestle with flesh and blood, the flesh and blood that is related to us. Sometimes, the greatest spiritual battles seem to take place in. . .
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Your Family is a Target-Rich Environment for Kingdom Building

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This World is a Battlefield We who are the seed of the woman are to oppose the seed of the serpent. The orders for this battle were written very early on: “And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her Seed” (Gen 3:15a). And there is seemingly no end to the areas of life in which we see possible conflicts and battlefields on which to fight them. Even within the evangelical, Bible believing, starched shirt-wearing church of the happy, clean, and polite, there is work to be done. We have chronicled many of. . .
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FREE MP3—Courtship (Basement Tape #61)

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Basement Tape #61: Courtship

Basement Tape #61, a conversation on courtship, is available for free today through Sunday. Don’t miss it! DOWNLOAD FREE MP3 A Conversation on Courtship What is courtship? How should it be done? Is there a biblical process we can follow? How do we best prepare our children to marry wisely, and how ought we to lead them through this process? God gave us marriage, and tasked us with raising godly seed. We in turn want our own children to marry wisely, and raise up the next generation of soldiers of the King. Join us as we consider courtship and some. . .
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We’re Getting Warmer—Family Time

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Home Fires Burning Three years ago while building our house we installed both a chimney and an electric heat pump. The heat pump was for present use. The chimney was for the future, standing cold and dormant while the heat pump did its work. For all the benefits that it does have, there is something missing from the heat pump experience—and not something crucial, like heat. Although a heat pump keeps the pipes from freezing, one cannot stand over the grate and actually get warm. Instead, there’s a draft—a mildly lukewarm breeze that actually sends chills down my spine just. . .
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I Still Do

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Marriage Vows Vows should always bring a sense of reservation. They bring a sense of sober contemplation. Taking a vow should cause us to pause and consider who we really are and who we will be. And there are few vows that are more important than the marriage vow. But one of the beauties about the marriage vow is that it involves two parties who make a similar promise, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish for a lifetime. These vows may seem constraining to some because they do indeed call us. . .
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Rest Amid Responsibilities

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Rest Amid Responsibilities

“A man works from sun to sun but a woman’s work is never done.” Although this saying does not describe the work patterns of my husband, this saying is true when you view Sunday as the Christian sabbath. While a man who works outside the home can accomplish a complete cessation of his vocation for one day each week, which mothering duties do not fall under the category of “duties of necessity and mercy”? Sunday is the Hardest Day When my older children were all little, I remember feeling a little resentful of the Sunday bustle. Every other day of. . .
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In Defense of Mourning and Dancing

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As many of you know, Kim, my bride of almost twenty-four years, passed into glory this April after a relatively brief, but intense, struggle with cancer. Besides myself, she left behind six children, all of whom still are at home. In the months that have passed since then, we have started along the road of mourning and grief that R.C. and his children started just ahead of us. Even though we are still relatively new on this path, I have learned a few lessons. First, it is healthy and necessary to mourn. Denial of grief or pain achieves nothing good.. . .
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The View from 99

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About a week ago, my darling husband was lamenting the impact pregnancy has on fathers. He summed it up with “Fifteen months. That’s positively scandalous!” I stared in disbelief. Surely he jests… First, the school marm in me wanted to hand him a pencil and paper. “Using two unit multipliers, convert eleven pregnancies to days.” But no. He wants to talk in months; fine, we’ll talk in months. “99.” Eleven pregnancies converts to ninety-nine months of my life being pregnant. That’s eight years and three months. Your point?  His shocked silence told me I had hit home. “Well, when you put it that way…”. . .
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A Conversation on Modesty

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Don’t look now, but I’m afraid we’re eager to have people look at us. Modesty is a concept that is all but forgotten in the church. On the rare occasion that it comes up, It is usually reduced to how much skin we’re exposing. Both bare midriffs and blogs, however, are most often the same thing beneath, a desire to draw attention to ourselves. In this conversation we consider modesty both as it relates to clothing, and how it relates to our hearts. We hope you’ll join us in this conversation.  

Couples Camp dates set for June 20-23, 2013 in Bristol, Virginia

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We are inviting ten couples to come for three days of intense conversation, as well as a great deal of fun. The camp is held at the home of Highlands Ministries President, Eric Owens, in Bristol, Virginia. Dr. R.C. Sproul Jr. will be your teacher. We will not only talk about how to be a kingdom-building, King-serving family, but we will talk about it in the context of such families. We will follow three distinct but related areas of inquiry: the biblical view of the family, the sovereignty of God, and the unstoppable spread of the Kingdom of God. Click here. . .
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A Cartoon Jesus by Kara Murphy

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In the sunday school classrooms in which I taught years ago, each weekly lesson had a main idea that we repeated over and over. Platitudes such as “God loves me,” “I am special to God,” and “We are kind to one another” filled the teacher’s manual. Curiously, we did not see “God is angry at the wicked every day.” Unfortunately, twentieth century American Christians more often take our cues from Frobel and Montessori than from the Word of God. If we are to train up a generation of God-fearing Christians, we must change both the methods and content of what. . .
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