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Basement Tape #165: Morality v. Holiness

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[Audio] Morality v. Holiness (Basement Tapes #165)

One of the purposes of the law is to make it clear that we are a very sinful people, it is not to be a point of pride for us. Pursuing morality tends to lead us to pharisaical behavior but pursing holiness leads us to Jesus.

Keeping Hope Alive While You’re Waiting

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Woman with a clock, waiting in hope.

Our earthly days are often strung together by threads of waiting. we catch it in mentions as our friends tell their stories: “I had given up on getting pregnant, and then along came little Jackson.” “I was nearly bankrupt when I landed that big contract.” “My sickness was undiagnosed for years, now I can finally get treatment.” “I was sure I would be single forever, and then I met Seth.” Most of us have stories of our own. Holding on to hope when fulfillment seems completely out of reach is not natural to us. We are plagued by doubts and. . .
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Viewing Your Children as Future Adults

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Developing Maturity Do all that you can to give your kids a wonderful childhood full of laughter, discovery, security, and grand memories, but always with a constant perspective toward their maturity. The idea here is to see how what you are doing is moving them forward toward maturity which then begs the question, “What is maturity?” Maturity is an evaluation of character development. Virtue equates to maturity but vice just means that you’ve gotten older while staying sinfully immature. For example, I am sure that you have noticed that babies are some of the most self-centered beings on the planet.. . .
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In Sickness & In Health

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So Many Sick People There seems to be a lot of sickness in my world. Maybe it’s because I have a close-knit church community and everyone’s eager to share their burdens with each other or social media has made such information flow, but certainly sickness seems to surround me. For starters, each week my church prayer list has a dozen names on it and some of those names have been on the list for years. My own wife Lindsay suffers from food allergies, thyroid issues, and difficult pregnancies. She has been sick in some way, shape, or form, since I. . .
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The Cure for Worry

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Overgrown Worry You may know the feeling, tension deeply rooted in the pit of your stomach burgeons outward and upward until your muscles are taut with resistance to the grasping weedy tendrils of anxiety whose speedy propagation just might overcome your adeptness at hacking away the spreading growth. Worry has an invasive quality which, when not extracted by the root, can rival the destructiveness of kudzu. Kudzu, for those who are unfamiliar, is a leafy vine which can grow as much as a foot a day given hospitable conditions. In the hills of southwest Virginia kudzu runs rampant overgrowing the. . .
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The Cure for Ingratitude

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What We Need My in-laws have just completed the long and painful renovation of their home in anticipation of selling it and moving closer to their nine grandchildren in Bristol, Virginia. In doing so they were in constant communication with their realtor who was advising them on paint colors and features that she knew her buyers were looking for. Of course, the whims of buyers are constantly changing but not as much as since the advent of HGTV. Home and Garden television (mostly home) is the cable channel dedicated to inflaming the lusts of each and every American woman. Features. . .
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Get Control of Your Thought Life

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Annoyed mother giving her baby a bottle.

If you aren’t taking every thought captive to Christ it will show in your parenting. How can you get control of your thought life and help your children do the same?

Wise Guys Know They Don’t Know Everything

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Wisdom for Difficult Pastoral Issues In recent weeks, I have seen a lot of internet energy being spent on what could charitably be called “difficult pastoral issues.” To be more specific, the energy is being focused on the relative correctness of pastoral decisions, and whether wisdom was properly applied. I have no desire to get into the specifics of any particular situation, because it really isn’t necessary to get to my main point which is the slippery nature of wisdom. In James 1:5, it says that if we are lacking in wisdom, that we should ask God for it. Furthermore,. . .
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Patience in Life’s Seasons

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Not many of us are farmers these days. Not that long ago, most of us would have been. And the perspective of a farmer is much different from that of other occupations. A salesman might work on a big deal for a few weeks; a doctor sees a patient for thirty minutes and a stock broker is ecstatic or miserable on a second by second basis. But the farmer thinks in terms of seasons. Long and hot or long and cold, months at a time, six months or more, seasons are his measuring stick. My father and mother grew up. . .
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Never Coming to the Truth

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Are you always learning but never coming to the truth, never actually making changes in your life and family? It is good to research and ask friends and mentors for advice, but we need to be sure that we seek to implement what we learn.

Christians—5 Ways to Tell if You Are in the Game or On the Bench!

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There is a place on a football field where players rarely get chased or pushed or tackled. There are seats and beverages and the view of the game is excellent. We can hear the crowds cheering and booing and, if we close our eyes, we might think they are talking to us. We, if we are on the sidelines, are most definitely not in the game. A lot of us like to put on the uniform and pace the sidelines and comment on the game in progress. We also like to stay clear of the action; it’s much safer that. . .
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Life Isn’t Fair

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Life Isn't Fair (Two girls, grumpy one with an apple, happy one with chocolate.

Childish Complaints Life isn’t fair. This is something my parents had no qualms about communicating to me from my very earliest years. They were not ones to give much ear to complaint. If I said, “That’s not fair! How come she got more than me?” the response would quickly follow, “Life isn’t fair.” This effectively silenced the complaint assuring me that kind of talk would get no hearing. They were not interested in validating my complaints with long discussions of why she got more than me or engaging in a debate on the fairness of my circumstances. This scenario played. . .
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Legacy, Memories, & Throwing Out Old Furniture

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Relocation Over the last few weeks, I’ve been preparing for my relocation to Mississippi where I will be taking a new pastorate. I am very excited to be moving into this new chapter of my life though I have no small amount of internal stress and conflict about what this new chapter necessarily entails. Please understand, there is nothing coming up in this new chapter that I particularly dread. There are the requisite pains in the neck that go with moving and getting acclimated to new surroundings. I will be going with a reduced brood size since some are going. . .
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Basement Tape #160: Change

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AUDIO: Change (Basement Tapes #160)

Change is inevitable as we progress through life. Sometimes it is anticipated as fresh and exciting. Sometimes we dread change as uncomfortable and disruptive. God uses change in our lives in many ways in our lives to grow us up in the faith and move us forward in His plans. There are also things that should never change. Join us for a conversation on change as we explore how to walk steadily through life’s changes.

My Dad Tells the Best Stories

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Father and daughter laughing and talking together.

“Just a little while longer Before we know We’ll be eating blood oranges In the snow.” – Over the Rhine My Dad tells the best stories. He has that deep, unexplained talent for making words obey him. Every story he decides to tell gets his full attention and his full effort, and every story has the chance to be a little bit more wonderful when he gets a hold of it. He tells us he has a story, and we settle back, and when he opens his mouth, the words traipse out in a purposeful meander, always sure of where. . .
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My Dad Was a Work in Progress & So am I

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Looking Back on a Life When I think back to my dad’s life, certain pictures or incidents come into my mind, as I am sure happens for you when you think back on your father. I have memories of him during my childhood, throwing baseball with me. I remember him standing by me as my best man when I got married. I remember him playing with my children when they were small. I remember him caring for my mother during her bouts with cancer and eventual home going. And, I remember him during his final years, as his own health. . .
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Dealing with Insults in the Age of the Internet

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Boy sticking out his tongue. (Dealing with Insults in the Age of the Internet)

Acting Like Children Each and every day that the sun rises, one of my two girls will cry out to me or their mother: “_____ scratched/hit/bumped/bit me!” They are indignant and their tone betrays their assumption that the said act of hostility was malicious and intentional. And, of course, it rarely was. They are young people of five and three and immature. A mark of immaturity is the deeply held belief that the world revolves around us. Along with this cosmic realization comes the stance that our point of view is the right one, and the only one. And we. . .
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Beating Discontentment

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Woman discontent with her breakfast. (HomeWise: Beating Discontentment)

One of the most difficult battles for stay-at-home moms is discontentment. The world is telling us our lives are not fulfilling. We must not believe them! Join Kara and Steve as they talk about contentment, personal fulfillment, and the wonderful, creative, difficult job of being a mom!

Experiencing Grace in Your Inadequacy

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Overwhelmed woman. (Experiencing Grace in Your Inadequacy)

Our inadequacy teaches us humility and shows us God’s grace. God wanted me to make sure that I understood that it was His grace at work in me, not my sufficiency that was building this house, building this home.

Don’t Let Bad Memories Steal Your Hope for the Future

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Man with umbrella, looking up. (Don't Let Bad Memories Steal Your Hope for the Future)

Good & Bad Memories Our perception of God, ourselves, and the world around us is largely shaped by what we have learned, not only through God’s Word, but also by our experience—our personal history. Our individual body of experience is made up of a collection of memories. These memories can be “good” or “bad” remembrances. They can be epochal events, or everyday occurrences. They can be highly emotional moments, or they can be relatively humdrum incidents. They can be memories of overwhelming love and kindness, or they can be memories of cruelty and brutality. Regardless, they have been stored in. . .
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