How can we regain some sanity on this difficult issue? Is there a formula? Does courtship always have to work the same way for every couple? Can courtship ever be a sinful thing? Is fear a driving force in your family’s understanding of these issues? Steve and Kara discuss some of their experience as their children have started to marry.
Wisdom is essential in building a strong family and home life. Women have innumerable people, projects, and loyalties competing for their time and attention. Proverbs tells us that, “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” In this weekly podcast wife, mother of ten, and seasoned home educator, Kara Murphy looks to God’s word for wisdom that will help women build up their families instead of tear them down. This podcast is both an encouragement and a challenge to rise above the folly that marks our culture and be HomeWise!
What are some of the things that “kids” need to be able to do before they are ready to take on the responsibility of marriage? Do they need to be ready to parent? What does it take to be financially ready? What level of maturity is needed? What are appropriate expectations? How can you gauge their emotional readiness?
How can we maintain a gracious attitude toward those we have disagreements with about non-essential issues: breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding, home birth vs. hospital birth, vaccinate vs. not-vaccinate, homeschool or Christian school, organic vs. not-organic. Families have strong opinions about these and other topics. How can we keep these things from becoming divisive? How do we keep from creating laws for each other where God allows freedom?
Kids will do what you do not what you say. When you yell at your kids to stop yelling, what are they learning? Are you telling your kids they should be saving their money while demonstrating how to get into credit card debt? Living out a good example is a powerful form of teaching.
What price do children pay when their parents are uptight, controlling, and fearful? Does being plugged in to all the social media feeds and parenting apps breed an uptight attitude in your parenting? Are you constantly comparing yourself to everyone else? What does fear have to do with it? Why do parents think they can control EVERYTHING? Join Steve and Kara for conversation on loosening up when necessary.
It’s easy to let things slide. How do you regain ground when you realize that you or your kids have backslidden on tasks or skills or habits you’ve already learned or thought you’d mastered? How can you revisit old lessons in a way that makes your family stronger and keeps you moving forward. Are there times when it’s okay to coast for a bit? How do you know when it’s time to hit the reset button?
What are the enemies of being a teachable person? Why do we get set in our ways and become unable to see problems in our parenting paradigms? What can we do to overcome our own blind spots? In this episode Steve and Kara talk about the difficulties of learning as you go while parenting and how to keep a humble attitude about your plans and methods of parenting.
How can you help your children move through different stages of life? Do you need to think about a longterm plan when your kids are still young? How do you know when your kids are ready to be released from being parented like a child? What should your relationship with your kids be like after they leave the home and get married?
How do you deal with difficult family during the holidays? Why is this more difficult than dealing with other people we have disagreements with? How can you be prepared to be a peacemaker and to speak the truth in love when your family makes unpleasant comments about your parenting or family? How can you rise above emotional reactions and learn to respond graciously to unkind words?
The Murphy family loves Christmas…no, they really LOVE Christmas! Kara talks about some things that help her get through the holiday season without getting stressed out. In the middle of the busyness are you remembering what it is all about? How can you check your attitude? How can you assess when to keep doing activities and traditions and when to let things go? How can you keep track of it all? What do you do about budgeting?
Why do we think that sickness is preventing us from living out God’s best plans for us? How do you deal with loss of control over things you used to be able to manage? The Murphys welcome special guests Mark & Andrea Robinette once again as they discuss how to deal with all the difficulties of illness when it is mom that is sick. Kara and Andrea talk about what to do when your health keeps you from doing all the things you desire to do? How do they care for their families and various responsibilities while struggling with illness?. . .
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Are you too self-centered in your focus on your own family at the expense of the church community? How do we pursue serving within the church in balance with caring for our families? Does your rigid schedule keep you from flexing to meet the needs that your neighborhood and community have? Your children are an integral part of the church. How can you involve them in serving the community and teach them that the world doesn’t revolve around them? This episode we welcome special guests Mark and Andrea Robinette to join our conversation!
Keeping your children in worship with you comes with challenges. How do you teach your children to pay attention and participate? What can you do to minimize the stress and disarray of getting ready Sunday morning to have your family prepared physically and mentally to join in worship on Sunday morning?
What role does music have in your home and family? How can you help your children, from your youngest to your oldest, love good music? How can you encourage your kids to learn to play and sing? How can music be a blessing in your family and to your community also? What if you aren’t a musical person, can you still teach your children these things? Join Steve and Kara as they talk about the joy of music in their home.
What do you do when you’re working really hard at something and not seeing any progress? What are some diagnostic questions you can ask yourself to discover problems with your parenting methods or education goals? Whether it is in academics or areas of discipline and maturity, how do we know if we need to just persevere or if we need to change what we’re doing. How can we help ourselves honestly see the progress we are making?
How do you know if you need to pull back from involvement in good projects or ministries for a time? Can good activities sometimes take your attention away from the best or more important things? Steve and Kara talk about their Summer break from podcasting and about being mindful of your time and energy and making sure you aren’t trading the best things for the endless good things that are out there.
How can you make your home into a place where people, even your own children, want to be? How do you keep people prioritized over stuff? Are there biblical ideas that can be applied to how we practice hospitality? Steve and Kara share some things they have learned that help them to be a blessing to the people who come into their home.
What are we really saying when we say, “That’s just who I am”? It is good to understand our strengths and weaknesses, but we shouldn’t close ourselves off to change. God works change in the lives of Christians throughout our lifetimes, and this is a good thing.