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How to Achieve Long-Term Change

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Will I Ever Be Able to Change? Long-term change is what the Christian life is all about (Ephesians 4:22–24). Someday we will experience the most glorious change from corruptible to incorruptible and we look forward to that glorious day when we will be like Christ. Until that time, the Bible makes it clear that we must strive: “Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing. . .
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It’s NOT About YourSelfie {A Girl’s Guide to the Good Life}

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Selfie-ish DayDreams That fantasy you have in your head—it’s not real. You know what I’m talking about, the Instagram filtered version of your future where everything your life now lacks will finally be in your grasp. You’ll be an adult and free of your parents demands on you, or you’ll be done with classrooms and test taking and on to your dream job, or Ryan Reynolds will have finally realized what a doofus he was for not finding you and marrying you sooner. Yep, it sounds nice. The problem is, it’s the daydream equivalent of a selfie. The foreground consists. . .
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How Not to Lose Your Faith When Illness Strikes

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Haven’t We Done This Before? Have you ever read a story about the people of Israel and thought, “Why are they losing faith again? Didn’t they learn their lesson the last time?” Hi, I’m Israel. Have we met? I thought I had learned the lesson of God’s grace being sufficient in my weakness during my early years of mothering, but the Lord has shown me that I need this lesson again. I have struggled with health issues off and on for many years. With so many pregnancies, it is inevitable to have fluctuating hormones and my body seems to have. . .
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Know Who Your Boss Is {A Girl’s Guide to the Good Life}

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No matter how independent we imagine ourselves, we are not. Before we can toddle about on our own two feet, our hearts (if not our lips) impetuously bawl, “You’re not the boss of me!” to anyone with the audacity to order us about. Unfortunately, infantile outbursts against rightful authority are not outgrown as quickly as a two-year-old stretches the limits of her toddler clothes. When last season’s footie jammies are pulled out of storage it’s obvious they need to go, but we continue trying to outfit ourselves with positions of independence and autonomy refusing to acknowledge that no matter how. . .
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TIPS for Perseverance When You Don’t See Progress

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What do you do when you’re working really hard at something and not seeing any progress? What are some diagnostic questions you can ask yourself to discover problems with your parenting methods or education goals? Whether it is in academics or areas of discipline and maturity, how do we know if we need to just persevere or if we need to change what we’re doing. How can we help ourselves honestly see the progress we are making?

HomeWise RETURNS!—Learning to Put Aside Good Things

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Woman holding baby and trying to do to many things at one time.

How do you know if you need to pull back from involvement in good projects or ministries for a time? Can good activities sometimes take your attention away from the best or more important things? Steve and Kara talk about their Summer break from podcasting and about being mindful of your time and energy and making sure you aren’t trading the best things for the endless good things that are out there.

Growing Up Single {A Girl’s Guide to the Good Life}

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Sometimes it seems like no progress can be made in life until there is a wedding band on your finger. In the church we have tried to morph marriage into a fairytale cure for all ills. Are you self-centered, immature, discontent, lustful, lazy? Get married, that will change you and finally vanquish these formidable adversaries. We want to apply a circumstantial cure to problems of the heart. When our story doesn’t seem to be working out on schedule much desperate advice is given, “You should try online dating, I know someone who married a guy she met online.” “There’s a. . .
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Be Hopeful {A Girl’s Guide to the Good Life}

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Grasping the Wind “Let us eat and drink for tomorrow we die!” (Isaiah 22:13). This is a common sentiment among us, though we may verbalize it in more subtle ways. “Live for the moment.” “Life is a collection of experiences.” “The joy is in the journey.” There is a residue of truth in these sayings which is appealing. We want our moments to matter. Of course we do, but the draw of the world to do what we feel in every moment is a message that is more convenient than it is true. The writer of Ecclesiastes, who is perhaps. . .
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Beware of Bitterness {A Girl’s Guide to the Good Life}

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Beware of Bitterness (woman tasting sour lemon)

Situational Bitterness Whatever it is we think we deserve; we don’t. It seems merciless to strip our presumed entitlements of their sympathetic narratives and leave them standing stark naked in such unforgiving light. Why be so brutal about it? Because cherishing feelings of entitlement is just the type of thing that nourishes the root of poisonous bitterness and bears an abundance of rotten fruit. When the Israelites were preparing to enter the Land, they received a warning: Beware lest there be among you a man or woman or clan or tribe whose heart is turning away today from the Lord. . .
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Hospitality Tips

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Hospitality Tips (wecome mat with slippers)

How can you make your home into a place where people, even your own children, want to be? How do you keep people prioritized over stuff? Are there biblical ideas that can be applied to how we practice hospitality? Steve and Kara share some things they have learned that help them to be a blessing to the people who come into their home.

Don’t Be Too Nice {A Girl’s Guide to the Good Life}

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Nice isn’t Everything If I were to ask you what are some desirable traits in a Christian woman, what would you say? Meek? Patient? Loving? Kind? Joyful? Submissive? These are all biblical words, but I’m afraid we often infuse them with mushy meaning they were never intended to carry. We have a tendency to amalgamate all the words descriptive of Christian character under the single moniker: nice. Now there’s a word that isn’t biblical. Jesus never said, “blessed are the nice.” God didn’t thunder from Sinai, “Thou shalt be nice.” We have adopted this idea, I suspect, because niceness has. . .
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Be Open to Change

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What are we really saying when we say, “That’s just who I am”? It is good to understand our strengths and weaknesses, but we shouldn’t close ourselves off to change. God works change in the lives of Christians throughout our lifetimes, and this is a good thing.

Be True {A Girl’s Guide to the Good Life}

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The Devil is a liar, the father of all lies, and every minute we spend wallowing in unbelief of the truths of God, we spend swamped by the lies of the devil. The supreme Liar will ooze falsehood, it is all he contains. Our Father, however, is true in all His being. Jesus promises us that His truth will lift us out of the soggy mire. If you continue in My word, then you are truly disciples of Mine; and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.—John 8: 32 Here’s the thing. We all know. . .
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Be the Right Kind of Busy {A Girl’s Guide to the Good Life}

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Filled Up Lives Admit it, you have been known to blink the a.m. crusties out of your eyes and respond to the call of your accumulated notifications even before you answer the pressing call of nature. You are not alone. Your priorities may not be completely rational, but you are not alone. Apparently, as a culture, we think it a reasonable assumption that something may have happened during the night which is so critical to the next two minutes that it just can’t wait; with more than one urgency calling for our attention, we may even try to multitask and. . .
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Don’t Be Stupid {A Girl’s Guide to the Good Life}

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Crooked Perspective Christian women often have a hard time gaining a firm footing in life. Young girls want more freedom, like their friends. Single girls want Prince Charming, like in the movies. Married women want children, or more children, or grown up children because toddlers are exhausting, or to reverse time to when their kids were babies again because it all went too fast. Working women may want to stay home while stay-at-home moms see their lives as tedious. We too often grasp after circumstances to steady our stance when we should pursue righteousness in everything and leave the circumstances. . .
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Resolutions: Choosing Your Hard

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Woman making a choice.

It’s hard to be consistent. Inconsistency also brings its own kind of hardship into your life. Making useful goals and resolutions has more to do with choosing the kind of hard you will endure and focusing on prioritizing things that will have the most impact. Small changes can make a big difference in your day-to-day living.

You Need a Mentor

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Mentoring is not something our culture values, but Christian women should heed God’s word and seek mentors for themselves and prepare themselves to be a mentor for others. Titus 2 women are not easy to find now, but we can try to change that for our daughters’ generation.

Moms Need Friends Too

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The mom life can be distracted, lonely, and isolated at times. How can you develop healthy and encouraging peer-to-peer relationships with other women? There are good and beneficial relationships and bad and harmful ones. How can you be intentional about the kind of relationships you have?

Getting Rest

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Mother resting with her baby.

One of the hardest things for a mother to do is get enough rest. Kara & Steve talk about the necessity of rest & some practical ways to make sure you are (or your wife is) getting enough.

When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

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Overwhelmed woman calling a time out.

Kara shares simple tips on how to get control of that overwhelmed feeling. These tips are easy to implement and just might change your home for the better.

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