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Home (Not) Alone

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Stressed mother with two young children.

What do you do when you are home all day with young children? What does it mean to BE WITH your children? How do you get things done? What are some practical things you can do with naptimes, mealtimes, bedtimes, playtimes, to keep a happier home? How can you consistently build biblical foundations in your littles?

Pregnancy: Carrying a Baby with Spina Bifida

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Steve & Kara talk about their child (still in the womb) being diagnosed with spina bifida. How have they seen God’s providence and care during an uncertain time? How are they making decisions and thinking about the future knowing their child is likely to have physical challenges his whole life? See how you can help the Murphy family during this time HERE.

Are You Living the Gospel Before Your Children?

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Your Life Speaks Your children will do what you do, not what you say. Other familiar ways of saying the same thing are, actions speak louder than words, and more is caught than taught. Generally speaking, I agree with these statements. Not to diminish the significance of verbally teaching our children the faith, the benefit of these statements is that they remind us that our actions teach our children what we really believe. This is a difficult reminder for me. I regularly see my children sinning only to realize they learned that particular behavior from me. The sin of their. . .
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Be a Protector for Your Home & Family

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Moving to the Country In June of this past year, my family purchased and renovated a home near our church. Our home is in the country, and my kids are getting to experience a childhood that is similar to mine and Brittany’s. We have wanted to make this move for a couple of years and the Lord has been exceedingly gracious to give us this place to call home. If you have ever moved to a new home, you know that the first few days are spent adjusting to this new environment and I felt ready and excited to get. . .
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Navigating Courtship

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What is the role of parents in the process of courtship? What kind of physical contact is appropriate for engaged couples? How do you get families on the same page with their expectations? With more people involved in the relationship there is more opportunity for sin, how can you deal with this rightly? How do you keep a humble attitude when two families don’t agree about how courtship should go or what the wedding should be like?

The Case for Courtship

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Young couple eating ice cream on a first date.

How can we regain some sanity on this difficult issue? Is there a formula? Does courtship always have to work the same way for every couple? Can courtship ever be a sinful thing? Is fear a driving force in your family’s understanding of these issues? Steve and Kara discuss some of their experience as their children have started to marry.

Marriage: Knowing When Your Kids are Ready

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Young children pretending to be bride and groom.

What are some of the things that “kids” need to be able to do before they are ready to take on the responsibility of marriage? Do they need to be ready to parent? What does it take to be financially ready? What level of maturity is needed? What are appropriate expectations? How can you gauge their emotional readiness?

Preparing Teens for Marriage

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How do you start preparing your children for marriage? How can you cultivate a good attitude toward marriage from an early age? How does the preparation differ for sons and daughters? What kinds of practical skills do they need?

Being Gracious on Non-Essential Issues

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How can we maintain a gracious attitude toward those we have disagreements with about non-essential issues: breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding, home birth vs. hospital birth, vaccinate vs. not-vaccinate,  homeschool or Christian school, organic vs. not-organic. Families have strong opinions about these and other topics. How can we keep these things from becoming divisive? How do we keep from creating laws for each other where God allows freedom?

Kids Do What You Do

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Kids will do what you do not what you say. When you yell at your kids to stop yelling, what are they learning? Are you telling your kids they should be saving their money while demonstrating how to get into credit card debt? Living out a good example is a powerful form of teaching.

Simplified Catechism for Toddlers

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When my first two children were two and three years old and just learning to speak, I unintentionally began asking them repeat things in stories, or from the Bible to help them stay engaged with the reading and to help remember what we were reading. I would ask them a question and have them repeat what I said in 3-4 beats/syllables. They seemed to like this and I noticed they were catching on, because they would say and mention these things in their evening prayers. To help them further, I decided to write down some of the things we had. . .
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Uptight Parents Make Uptight Kids

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What price do children pay when their parents are uptight, controlling, and fearful? Does being plugged in to all the social media feeds and parenting apps breed an uptight attitude in your parenting? Are you constantly comparing yourself to everyone else?  What does fear have to do with it? Why do parents think they can control EVERYTHING? Join Steve and Kara for conversation on loosening up when necessary.

Pushing Reset

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It’s easy to let things slide. How do you regain ground when you realize that you or your kids have backslidden on tasks or skills or habits you’ve already learned or thought you’d mastered? How can you revisit old lessons in a way that makes your family stronger and keeps you moving forward. Are there times when it’s okay to coast for a bit? How do you know when it’s time to hit the reset button?

Tell Your Kids the Christmas Story . . . Then Celebrate It!

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Telling the Christmas Story Christmas is an event so wonderful and important that time and history are kept according to Jesus’ arrival. This is a story that must be told annually. American Christians are in a unique position because we simultaneously have a cultural and religious holiday mixed together, and we end up with manger scenes that have either Santa Claus flying overhead or Santa bowing down at the manger in worship of Christ. Certainly if the historical Saint Nicholas had been present at the birth of Christ, he would bowed before Christ, but Santa Claus bowing seems rather strange. . .
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Parenting Older Children

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How can you help your children move through different stages of life? Do you need to think about a longterm plan when your kids are still young? How do you know when your kids are ready to be released from being parented like a child? What should your relationship with your kids be like after they leave the home and get married?

How to Deal with Difficult Family at the Holidays

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How do you deal with difficult family during the holidays? Why is this more difficult than dealing with other people we have disagreements with? How can you be prepared to be a peacemaker and to speak the truth in love when your family makes unpleasant comments about your parenting or family? How can you rise above emotional reactions and learn to respond graciously to unkind words?

Holiday Stress

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The Murphy family loves Christmas…no, they really LOVE Christmas! Kara talks about some things that help her get through the holiday season without getting stressed out. In the middle of the busyness are you remembering what it is all about? How can you check your attitude? How can you assess when to keep doing activities and traditions and when to let things go? How can you keep track of it all? What do you do about budgeting?

Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired

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Why do we think that sickness is preventing us from living out God’s best plans for us? How do you deal with loss of control over things you used to be able to manage? The Murphys welcome special guests Mark & Andrea Robinette once again as they discuss how to deal with all the difficulties of illness when it is mom that is sick. Kara and Andrea talk about what to do when your health keeps you from doing all the things you desire to do? How do they care for their families and various responsibilities while struggling with illness?. . .
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Serving the Church & Community as a Family

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Mother and daughter serving by cleaning the floor together.

Are you too self-centered in your focus on your own family at the expense of the church community? How do we pursue serving within the church in balance with caring for our families? Does your rigid schedule keep you from flexing to meet the needs that your neighborhood and community have? Your children are an integral part of the church. How can you involve them in serving the community and teach them that the world doesn’t revolve around them? This episode we welcome special guests Mark and Andrea Robinette to join our conversation!

Keeping Kids in Worship

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Keeping your children in worship with you comes with challenges. How do you teach your children to pay attention and participate? What can you do to minimize the stress and disarray of getting ready Sunday morning to have your family prepared physically and mentally to join in worship on Sunday morning?

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