What is the role of parents in the process of courtship? What kind of physical contact is appropriate for engaged couples? How do you get families on the same page with their expectations? With more people involved in the relationship there is more opportunity for sin, how can you deal with this rightly? How do you keep a humble attitude when two families don’t agree about how courtship should go or what the wedding should be like?
What are some of the things that “kids” need to be able to do before they are ready to take on the responsibility of marriage? Do they need to be ready to parent? What does it take to be financially ready? What level of maturity is needed? What are appropriate expectations? How can you gauge their emotional readiness?
How do you start preparing your children for marriage? How can you cultivate a good attitude toward marriage from an early age? How does the preparation differ for sons and daughters? What kinds of practical skills do they need?
How do you deal with difficult family during the holidays? Why is this more difficult than dealing with other people we have disagreements with? How can you be prepared to be a peacemaker and to speak the truth in love when your family makes unpleasant comments about your parenting or family? How can you rise above emotional reactions and learn to respond graciously to unkind words?
Why do we think that sickness is preventing us from living out God’s best plans for us? How do you deal with loss of control over things you used to be able to manage? The Murphys welcome special guests Mark & Andrea Robinette once again as they discuss how to deal with all the difficulties of illness when it is mom that is sick. Kara and Andrea talk about what to do when your health keeps you from doing all the things you desire to do? How do they care for their families and various responsibilities while struggling with illness?. . .
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Life Altering Changes In February 2010, there were two events which changed the course of my life. The first was finding out my wife Brittany was pregnant with Reid, our first child. The second was the next day, when we moved into our first home, which we lived in for six years. Now it may seem I’m over stating the importance of these events. After all, these are normal events in the life of most. Yes, they are important and special, but not unique, and in most ways quite ordinary, to which I would respond “precisely,” because these were the. . .
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Is dating a critical part of a marriage? What about when money is tight or the kids are young, how can you make time for each other? If you are thinking you don’t even know each other anymore that creates big problems in a marriage. Taking time to be together can help keep you on the same page with your spouse and keep your family moving in a unified direction.
The relational challenges of extended family can be a big stressor on your marriage. Learning to recognize the different cultures within different families, generational differences, and communication style differences can help.
What does it do the the Christian family when couples try to plan the size of their family? Should the Bible’s words about the blessing of children carry weight decisions about birth control? How does our culture’s view of children color our own views? How can we acknowledge the serious health difficulties some women have while not disregarding or rebelling against God’s hand in building our families?
God Gave Us Stories Our text for this occasion is from I Corinthians 10: For I do not want you to be unaware, brothers, that our fathers were all under the cloud, and all passed through the sea, and all were baptized into Moses in the cloud and in the sea, and all ate the same spiritual food, and all drank the same spiritual drink. For they drank from the spiritual Rock that followed them, and that Rock was Christ. Nevertheless, with most of them God was not pleased, for they were overthrown in the wilderness. Now these things took. . .
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Identifying Marital Communication Problems I’ve been reading a lot recently from the writings of Malcolm Gladwell, whose books I have found fascinating and I highly recommend them to you. In his book Blink, as part of a larger discussion of how we know what we know seemingly instinctively, he wrote about a psychologist who studied the communication styles of married couples. He placed them in a room and asked them to talk for thirty minutes about any topic that had caused them tension as a couple. He videotaped and analyzed the interaction repeatedly looking for a large number of specific,. . .
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This is part two of a conversation with three pastors as they share their experiences with and thoughts about the need for counseling prior to marriage, even some followup visits during year one. This talk can also be called: Everything I wish I had known before I got married but it’s not too late to learn now.
Find Part 1 of this conversation HERE.
Three pastors share their experiences with and thoughts about the need for counseling prior to marriage, even some followup visits during year one. This talk can also be called: Everything I wish I had known before I got married but it’s not too late to learn now.
Find Part 2 of this conversation HERE.
One of the hardest things for a mother to do is get enough rest. Kara & Steve talk about the necessity of rest & some practical ways to make sure you are (or your wife is) getting enough.
If you aren’t taking every thought captive to Christ it will show in your parenting. How can you get control of your thought life and help your children do the same?
How can we have a God-honoring family structure that acknowledges the differences between men and women and embraces a woman’s role as helpmeet without falling into the problems that plague both the world and the church in this area?
Do your kids know why your family does things the way you do them? Looking for something to give your family balance and help keep you true to your goals? Developing a Family Vision can do just that!
Are you and your spouse pulling in opposite directions? How can you start working together instead of against each other? When husbands and wives are on the same page, the whole family benefits.
To find an answer to this question there are several questions that need to be asked that can help foster understanding, and several biblical principles that can be applied. Learn to Ask Why The first question to be asked as to her lack of support is: Why? You need to understand her heart and convictions in the matter. Also, this isn’t a one-question kind of inquiry. Her initial answer needs to be probed, not to look for logical errors, but to make sure you know both the surface answer as well as the underlying concerns. Her concerns might not be. . .
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Why do Christian marriages fail? As I was sitting at a banquet listening to Christian leaders on the front lines of the current battle over same-sex marriage and religious liberty, a question popped into my head: “How would I neutralize these leaders if I were the devil?” What came to mind was a strategy the devil has used to great effect: Attack their marriages. Simple and effective, and it works against ordinary Christians too. If the devil can cripple our marriages, it won’t matter what we say or do about the institution of marriage. Christian marriages fail the way civilizations. . .
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