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Did You Have a Blue Christmas?

Christmas Bright & Christmas Blue For our Christmas morning breakfast we had waffles, eggs, link sausage, coffee, tea, eggnog, and lots of conversation. A playlist of Christmas hymns and songs played in the background as we ate, talked, and laughed. Later in the day we joined another family for more of the same but this time we were slicing into prime rib and pouring wine. Now all my Yuletides have not been nearly as full. Some late Decembers I went hungry and was mostly alone. I worked on December 25 several times and there was no one to come home. . .
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Your Kids Need to Hear Your Story

Untold Stories Many people are closed books; their stories are untold. Though they may be locked away in memories past, they are presently on display in every facet of one’s personality. Temperament, sense of humor, work ethic, reactions, values, are all just the iceberg’s tip, Beneath the surface there is so much more. And while this tragic phenomenon is worthy of unpacking in multi-book form, I instead just want to encourage you to tell your children Your Story. When you are disciplining your children, tell them of similar sins that you committed. Relay to them how your parents reacted (for. . .
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Viewing Your Children as Future Adults

Developing Maturity Do all that you can to give your kids a wonderful childhood full of laughter, discovery, security, and grand memories, but always with a constant perspective toward their maturity. The idea here is to see how what you are doing is moving them forward toward maturity which then begs the question, “What is maturity?” Maturity is an evaluation of character development. Virtue equates to maturity but vice just means that you’ve gotten older while staying sinfully immature. For example, I am sure that you have noticed that babies are some of the most self-centered beings on the planet.. . .
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American Traveler, International Christian

Having recently returned from a trip to Iceland and France with my two teenage daughters, I shared with the men of my church some of the benefits that I believe such an adventure can accomplish in the hearts and minds of those who travel. One of those benefits is the possibility of becoming more cosmopolitan than American and therefore more Christian. Now behind that statement there is no intent to denigrate my homeland; I only mean that the exposure to other places and people-groups helps to get the perspective that you and yours are not the center of the universe.. . .
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Is Happiness Actually Possible?

Where are you? Everyone is somewhere. Not location necessarily, but location can matter. So where would you say that you are? “I’m here” sounds despondent but still coping. “I don’t know” is honest but sort of the same as, “I’m here” with perhaps a desire to be found. “Not where I should be” is also honest, very honest. But why are you there and are you willing to do something about it? Wait. Maybe that isn’t fair. I shouldn’t assume that you haven’t already tried to change your situation and/or yourself. Everyone Wants to Be Happy Let’s start over. I. . .
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Is God a Stick-in-the-Mud?

The next time you hear anyone describing God by that longstanding caricature of someone who, upon finding people having fun, tells them to stop, remind them that mankind started with a naked man and a naked woman with an entire world to romp and play in and that that was God’s idea. And when you do have that opportunity for such a rebuttal, I hope that it is on a crowded airplane or a long checkout line at the grocery store. We are Ungrateful Now, you may have to concede right then and there that such a critique can be. . .
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We are Making History

Experiencing Old Culture Having just recently returned from a trip to Europe I am finding that everything they say about international jet-lag is true. Well, maybe it’s not just getting used to the time adjustment as much as all those croissants. Yes, the food was great, the coffee was excellent, but the big takeaway was the history of buildings, cemeteries, streets, and statues. Any American is immediately aware of the fact that they are visiting in the Old World having traveled from the New. You are surrounded by manifestations of older culture. Here is where the “Melting Pot” of American. . .
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A Creative Way Busy Dads CAN Help with Homeschooling!

If you homeschool, you know by now that most of the edumakaten’ is done by the mother. Sure, Dad might be the “school” superintendent and most likely he helps with some reading and the occasional shop class but we all know that moms do most of the work. After all, her husband is busy with a 40+ hour work week that can be accompanied by a long commute and occasional work-related travel. My particular situation is a bit different from the nine to five daily schedule. I am able to be home and fill in with philosophy, history, literature, and. . .
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7 Pastoral Don’ts

The man in the pulpit has the responsibility for the spiritual care of the people in his particular sacred community and that is no easy task for many reasons and while there are a multitude of ideas and strategies that will benefit him in his calling there are also some presumptions and motivations that can be detrimental and undermine all of his efforts. So, with the intention to help my fellow pastors I offer seven don’ts that I have learned from others or through my own experience. Don’t Take It Personal Some people are just mean, others have been bitter. . .
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5 Surprising Things About the Proverbs 31 Woman

Everyone knows that the lady described in Proverbs 31 is generally considered to be the supreme example of womanhood found in the Bible and the archetype that all Christian men should seek out for marriage. But there are some facts about the P-31 Girl that most men and even most women are not aware of. This description of the ‘perfect’ female came from another woman—not a man. What we have here is the counsel of King Lemuel’s mom. This might seem like a minor fact and of no real significance but it has been surprising to those I have pointed. . .
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8 Ways to Train UP a Child

Train Up a Child, Not Down Parents need to be careful to insure that their kids are always looking up. Up to them, up to the Lord, and up in life. Brow beaten children should not exist in the church. Neither should there be any youth who struggle with self-image or personal worth that are not receiving constant help and encouragement. We are to coach them in wisdom to follow their God on this amazing journey called Life and since everyday holds for them new challenges, as well as distractions, here are eight ways to help raise them up. 1.. . .
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5 Things You Should Know About Your Dad

Most of his time is taken up with providing for you and the rest of your family; your house, your clothes, your toys, your food. This task is on his mind a lot. This means that he is often gone before you get up in the morning. And when he gets home in the evening he is often tired and the job is still on his mind. But you are in his heart and he performs his duties to insure that there is food on your table, and that the family can go on vacations, and also that your birthday. . .
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Our “Tomorrowland”

Tomorrowland Optimism I really enjoyed Brad Bird’s latest cinematic offering about a lost, but still possible, yet fantastically fun, utopian future. His vision was definitely “old school” Disney and by that I mean Walt Disney and his original plan for the “world” that he hoped to create. Like Brad, I remember the optimism of the Space Age when science and technology held all the promises of a brighter day—just down the road—in my lifetime. And Walt was there, envisioning everything and trying to help us realize (before CNN or G-20 or the Internet) that it is indeed a small world. . .
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6 Ways to Give Your Child Creative Space

Individuality in Your Children In the beginning God created a vast universe of colorful planets and stars floating and spinning (or just floating but sometimes falling) in a sea of exquisite blackness. Then He made adult human beings and gave them all that space to enjoy, play in, shape, cultivate, and care for. We were made for this enterprise. That means that our children were made for this too. Children will claim space naturally. Before you know it, they have pinned something to the wall in their bedroom or have staked out a shelf in your garage. They will arrange,. . .
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On the Needs of Women

Guys, Ladies need the unique encouragement that can only be sourced from other women. This is an essential facet of feminine life that is above and beyond, but in addition to, the love that the husband provides. As the apostle Paul writes to the young pastor, Timothy, he says to let “the older women . . . admonish the young women.” This informs me that as a husband, father, brother, friend, pastor, I cannot fulfill a certain part of any woman’s life; not even that of my own wife. There is a gender dynamic at play here that can only. . .
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Talking God With Your Kids

We were driving along, the family and I, when the discussion somehow transitioned into a question from my son, Ethan: “Dad, is there a word for all of the ‘omnis’ associated with God?” Now please be aware that, though that is an important and an amazing question, our family really isn’t that intellectual. In fact, I am pretty sure that the previous chatter included movie storylines, a question about lunch, and a smidgen of gossip. How did we get to theology? Your guess is as good as mine. Anyway, there it was, a very big question. If your family is. . .
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4 Warnings Jesus Gives to Churchgoers

Jesus Talked to Churchgoers “If you are not more spiritual than those who are teaching you how to be spiritual, you will be one of those who will one day call out to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and I will say to your face—I never knew you.” Scary? It should be, especially since the above paraphrase is a synopsis of Jesus speaking to the Church at that time. The quote is a connecting of the dots from Jesus’ teaching at the Sermon on the Mount. Do you remember as a child getting one of those books full of all types of. . .
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I Am a Miracle

The Miracle of Change Not so much like a sea parting or an ax head floating but the same force that acted upon that water and that iron also changed my natural dynamics and the course of my life, and now I am acting differently than I or anyone else ever expected. My previous nature was to sin and to enjoy sin. I also languished as a young occultist and later as an atheist. My parents constantly fought (loudly) in our home and often threatened to divorce each other. Going to school was a type of hell in itself on. . .
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10 Parenting Tips for Raising “Real” Kids

When it comes to parenthood I knew that I could not raise perfect children, so I decided to go for the gold and try for real kids instead. Sort of a mix of Tom Sawyer and Lucy Pevensie with a dash of Jonny Quest. Here are some parenting tips that I either started with or have learned along the way: 1. Children need to be viewed as future adults Give them a wonderful childhood full of laughter, discovery, security, and grand memories, but with a constant perspective toward their maturity. 2. Teach them to worship rather than to behave Instructions. . .
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Christian Health Insurance & Trusting God

Health Insurance Insecurity Last month, my health provider informed me that my family was being dropped from their coverage—nothing personal—we represented just one of thousands of other families who will soon be without health insurance unless we scramble around looking for another company to take us on. Trusting God This is, of course, due to politics, and economics, and while much is being debated in those realms, my personal and individual dilemma is this; what makes me feel most secure? Is it an attachment to a large faceless corporation that will cover everything from major medical expenses to co-paying for. . .
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Laurence Windham

Laurence Windham.

Rev. Laurence Windham is a parish pastor at Saint Peter Presbyterian Church in Bristol, Virginia, husband of Angela and Father to Lauren, Alayna, Ethan, Garrett, and Miles. He shares his life at http://sppcpastor.blogspot.com/
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